Hello and Happy New Year! Have you made a resolution this year? There are many different things I want to change, but I’ve narrowed it down to what I feel is the most important - a resolution for 2007…
My resolution this year is to leave my work at the office and to be a mother, a daughter and a friend, when with my loved ones. Until recently, I never realized just how much I remain focused on work even when I’m not there.
As I’ve mentioned before, there are anonymous people, who for their own reasons post negative comments about Sundance Vacations on the Internet; as the Communications Director, the posters sometimes target me as well. It’s hard not to take it personally when my company and my own personal integrity are attacked, and I sometimes talk about it with friends and also at home…apparently too much.
A short time ago, I came home from work to find my fifteen-year-old son, Jimmy, at the door waving a sheet of paper at me. He was excited, and thrust the paper in my hand saying, "Look Mom, check out what I wrote!" I was humbled by what I read. Jimmy had sent a message to a poster that said in part, “…my mother has been coming home upset…I decided to check it out myself…my mother is proud of the company where she works and tries very hard to please her customers…It sounds quite simply like you have never been on any sort of vacation with Sundance and you just feel the need to attack my family…I would appreciate it if you stopped judging people, etc…”
What an amazing child, right? He’s funny, smart, and loves his mother. I wouldn’t change anything about him (except maybe the way he keeps his bedroom). I have been and continue to remain amazed by both of my children. It’s hard not to be proud that my son jumped to my defense. The thing is I don’t want my children to feel as though they have to defend me. For me, it should be the other way around, always. I’m the parent and I am entirely capable of handling my professional concerns without dragging my family and friends into it.
I believe children should be worrying about doing their homework, walking the dog, and playing with their friends, not what’s happening to their parents at work. Time flies by and I want Jimmy to enjoy his childhood while he can. I want to enjoy Jimmy’s childhood while I can! My other son, Michael, is only five years older than Jimmy and he is already a sophomore in college. It wasn’t that long ago that he laid his head on my lap and wept after losing the All Star Little League Baseball District Championship- now he lives in another state and we only see each other when he’s on break. Time with my boys is fleeting and I want to make the most of it.
I love my job and it deserves my time and my attention; but so do my children. This year I resolve to leave my work at the office, and to give my family the time and attention they deserve.
Please write I’d love to hear your resolutions and comments.
Kathy